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Seven Subtle Ways We Make Students Feel Seen and Valued

Students want to know and be frequently reassured that we see them, and they belong in our classroom. We might think that such reassurance should happen naturally. Often it does. However, some students seek and need more frequent reassurance than others.

Students pay attention to many seemingly small, subtle signs to reinforce that we notice and value their presence. The truth is that many students do not want us to be obvious and public in our messaging. They seek reassurance, not embarrassment.

The good news is that we send many of these messages naturally, without planning or spending extra time. If fact, when we see and respect our students, we often do and say things that reassure them. Here are seven of the most common and effective messages of noticing and inclusion.

Using students’ names to affirm and reinforce, not just to direct or correct. Saying things like “Good insight, Axel.” And “Interesting idea, Alice.” can send powerful messages about our valuing of and respect for students. The comfortable and natural use of students’ names reaffirms that we see and respect them.

Remembering seemingly small details. Students are especially sensitive to our recalling information about their interests, hobbies, and life. We might comment on a favorite book they mentioned, ask about a hobby they pursue, or we might ask about a sport, musical instrument, or project they are working on. Of course, knowing a student’s birthday and congratulating them can be a special bonus.

Engaging students at eye level. For young students this may mean our kneeling or sitting to better match their height. For older students standing near them and having eye contact without crowding or hovering can convey a similar message.

Responding non-verbally when students speak. We might nod our head, raise an eyebrow, or shrug our shoulders, depending on what the student is saying. How we physically respond can be equally or even more powerful than what we say in response.

Resisting the urge to interrupt or correct. We may think that we know what the student is going to say and we have the answer, we may want to immediately correct them, or we may just be in a hurry. Regardless, letting students speak without interruption is a sign of respect and worth.

Pausing briefly once students finish speaking. We might briefly pause to be sure the student is finished. We might provide space for the student to reflect and possibly think of something more to add. Or we might pause to reassure the student that we are listening and considering what they have said.

Recording and referencing what students say. We might turn and write a student’s idea or observation in a public space, such as on a whiteboard. Or we might later reference what a student has said in the context of our comments without necessarily using their name. For example, we might say, “Recall what someone earlier said…” The student will know that they were the source and we will have had the impact we intended.

We all want to feel as though we are noticed and belong. When we have this reassurance, we are freer to take risks, more confident in forming relationships, and freer to be ourselves. Our students feel the same. Fortunately, we have it in our power to create and offer this assurance.

Six “Never Do’s” Educators Should Never Do

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February 24, 2026

Six “Never Do’s” Educators Should Never Do

The idea of “never doing” some things as being crucial to our path to success and satisfaction may seem counterintuitive. Certainly, we typically think of “doing more” and “doing better” as paths to flourishing as a professional. Yet, achieving success has as much to do with what we choose not to do as what we choose to do.

In fact, refusing to engage in many actions can be the key to not only having a greater impact on the success of our students, but it can also leave us healthier, happier, and with more energy than we might imagine to be possible. Need more convincing? Try these six “never do’s” and reap the rewards.

Never work harder than your students. Learning results from engagement, effort, reflection, questioning, and connecting. These are not actions we can perform for students, but we can plan activities that position students to take an active role in their learning. Our job is to design the work that students will do and that will engage them in ways that learning results. When we do, not only will students learn more, but they will also remember it longer. The truth is that the person in the classroom who is learning the most is the person who is working the hardest. That person should not be us.

Never hold on to strategies that no longer work. We sometimes have “go to” strategies and techniques that early in our career or even a year ago seemed to work, but for some reason they are not effective with our current group of students. Obviously, there can be many reasons why what used to work no longer does. The nature of our students may have changed, or their needs may have changed. It also might be that our expectations have changed. We may have different expectations for the impact or a shift in our approach. Consequently, what used to fit no longer does. We might find that we can adjust the strategy to regain the impact we used to see, or it may be time to let go and look for a better way to achieve the outcome we need and expect.

Never expect perfection from yourself or your students. Schools are places for learning, and mistakes, revisions, and improvement are hallmarks of the learning process. When performance is error-free, it is time to seek out the next challenge. When students struggle and require multiple attempts, we are watching learning in action. Perfection is a sign that it is time to move to the next level of learning. Likewise, when we revise our thinking and adjust our instruction in the presence of students, we are demonstrating our learning. When our instruction becomes error free, it is time to take some risks and try some new strategies and approaches that will challenge us, even if it means what our work will be less than perfect.

Never sacrifice your health and well-being as though doing so is are a badge of honor. Mental and physical health are crucial to our ability to give students what they need and to sustain our professional role. We gain little if we allow our work to overwhelm our lives. Becoming ill, constantly exhausted, and worn down does little to improve the quality of our work or provide high-level support for our students. The truth is that balancing work and personal time, maintaining reasonable boundaries, and prioritizing recovery are hallmarks of high performers.

Never stop learning. Much of teaching involves routines. They are important to creating efficiency and predictability, but they can become traps that lead to complacency. They can get in the way of our continuing to learn, improving our practice, and tapping our creativity. Of course, learning does not always have to involve taking courses and earning degrees, although they can be useful. Committing to making small adjustments, trying one new thing, taking responsible risks, and remaining curious can make a huge difference in our success and satisfaction, if practiced consistently over time.

Never confuse your title with your worth. In our world, some occupations have more social status than others. Today, education and teaching are not given high compensation and unrestrained respect. Yet it is extremely important work with the potential for great impact on our students and our society. The work we do, how we do it, and the impact we can have on young people’s lives is not just worthy work; it can be life changing. Regardless of the specific role we have, our worth is determined by the investment we make, the differences our work has on the lives of our students, and the greater good education and learning create for society. The value and respect society assigns to education and teaching as a role are far less important than the worth our work creates for all involved.

There are many tasks and responsibilities with which we must engage to be successful with our students and in our profession. However, we also need to give our attention to the actions we need to avoid if we want to achieve and sustain our success and enjoy the satisfaction our work can offer.

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