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Debate: Should We Hug Students? Cautions and Considerations

There is no shortage of arguments about whether teachers should hug students. Some say that hugs leave teachers open to accusations of inappropriate touching. Others are concerned that hugs might be misinterpreted. Still, others are not comfortable hugging anyone, including students. On the other hand, advocates speak to the importance of human connection, especially during difficult and emotional times. They argue that human touch, including hugs, are effective ways to communicate caring, encouragement, and empathy.

Meanwhile, several research studies have documented the benefits of hugs. Hugs can release oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine—the brain’s feel-good hormones. Hugs also can activate cortisol, the anti-stress hormone, thus reducing levels of anxiety and depression. In addition, studies have shown a connection between hugs and reductions in stress-related illnesses and infection.

In an academic context, positive touch has been linked to increased class participation and increases in on-task behavior. In younger children, studies have connected positive touch with decreases in disruptive behavior.

So, what steps can we take to minimize the risks associated with hugs and maximize the benefits? We can start by noting these elements:

Become familiar with and follow any school policies that might provide guidance or present restrictions on hugging and related contact with students.
Discuss the concepts of personal space and giving permission with students.
Ask for permission before initiating a hug, especially with students who may have experienced trauma.
Respect any cultural difference that might be related to physical contact.
Keep hugs brief and non-intrusive.
Allow students to initiate hugs.
Consider side hugs as an alternative.
Confine hugs to public spaces.

Of course, hugs are not the only options for making human contact. If hugs are not for you or appropriate in the current setting, consider one or more of the following alternatives:

Fist bumps
Elbow bumps
High fives/air fives
Shoulder taps
Handshakes
Authentic smiles
Kind and encouraging words
Meaningful eye contact
Written sticky notes

We might think of these alternatives to hugs as “micro-moments” of acknowledgement and connection. Not all of them carry the level of connection and offer the same psychological and physical benefits of hugs. However, depending on the setting, cultural context, age and gender of students, and our comfort level, they can be safe, useful, and beneficial alternatives.

Insight: Three Levels of Trust We Must Build with Students

Climate and Culture, Relationships and Connections

November 20, 2025

Insight: Three Levels of Trust We Must Build with Students

We may not think much about the importance of trust in our classroom. In fact, we may even assume that it occurs naturally. Yet, trust is not something that just happens. Trust grows as the result of multiple factors, including feelings of safety, predictability, respect, confidence, and compassion. Of course, trust matters because unless students trust us, learning will be a struggle and may not occur at all.

We might think that we just need students to trust that we are there to stimulate, nurture, and extend their learning. Yet trust is often more complex and multi-dimensional than we might presume. Trust exists at various levels of strength and in response to multiple levels of experience. In fact, trust in classrooms takes on at least three distinct levels.

In its most basic level, students trust that they will be safe, they will be treated fairly, they know what is expected of them, and they will be treated with dignity and respect. When trust at this level is present, students’ attention shifts from protection and survival mode to learning mode. Routines and predictability lessen their anxiety and free their mental resources to hear and process instruction, engage in problem solving, and be creative. On the other hand, when a basic sense of safety and security are not present, students are more likely to be anxious, preoccupied, and withdrawn.

The second level of classroom trust indicates that students have confidence that we have the competence to help them succeed. Students want to feel confident that we have the knowledge and skills necessary to teach them. They want reassurance that we possess deep content knowledge and can share it with them using clear, supportive, and effective strategies. Trust at this level also extends to our preparing engaging and purposeful lessons and our readiness to adjust when students struggle. Further, students want to trust that we will provide timely, specific, actionable, and encouraging feedback to support their learning.

The third level of classroom trust rests on whether students feel that we care about them as a person. Trust at this level is personal. Students want to feel that we really “see” them. Students seek reassurance that we are willing to listen and respect their feelings and perspectives. They want us to notice their strengths, understand their challenges, and acknowledge the effort they give. Trust at this level also extends beyond the classroom to our interest in students’ lives, such as hobbies, interests, family, etc.

Obviously, the levels of trust are interdependent and build on each other. Without a basic sense of safety, trust in our instructional competence holds little value and relational trust is out of reach. When just the first two layers of trust are present, learning often takes on a transactional feel with students cooperating and complying but not taking learning risks and extending their learning beyond what is required. The door to the transformational power of learning opens when trust at all three levels is strong. Learning can occur without fear or hesitation. Students can take on difficult learning tasks, make mistakes, and explore new learning paths with the confidence that we are there to guide, support, and encourage them.

So, what behaviors can we practice if we hope to establish trust at each of these three levels? Here are examples at each level to consider:

Basic trust:

Establish and follow clear, predictable, useful routines.
Create and consistently enforce clear, reasonable rules and expectations.
Protect students from ridicule, bullying, and exclusion.
Follow through on commitments.
Own and correct our mistakes.

Competence Trust:

Design lessons with student readiness, interest, and learning goals in mind.
Strive for clarity and digestibility when presenting new information and introducing new skills.
Notice and encourage progress (even when it is small).
Provide timely, actionable, and encouraging feedback.
Frequently check for understanding and seek feedback to increase clarity and reduce confusion.

Relational Trust:

Listen deeply and actively to what matters to students.
Make personal connections with students through interest in their lives beyond the classroom.
Share confidence in their potential, notice their strengths, and encourage their passions.
Encourage students to take learning risks and reassure them of our support.
Assume positive intentions and integrity.
Show our humanity by being willing to be vulnerable and share our interests and passions.

The truth is that trust precedes learning. Unless students trust that we will make the classroom a safe place, learning will be a challenge. Unless students trust that we can teach them, they are not likely to invest and take risks. On the other hand, when students feel safe, trust our competence, and feel seen, supported, and cared for, there is no limit to what they can accomplish.

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