We want students to begin the new year with excitement, anticipation, and curiosity. However, we also know that students often come to school with a variety of questions, concerns, and worries. We need to feed their excitement, reinforce their anticipation, and continue to build their curiosity. Meanwhile, we must recognize and do all that we can to answer their questions, lessen their fears, and build their confidence.
Of course, the range of questions and concerns students have can be wide. Nevertheless, there are three categories of fear that are common among students of almost any age, background, or culture: protection of identity, desire to belong, and wanting to be competent.
Identity
Among the questions students are likely to have are: Will I be liked? Can I be myself? Will I be accepted for who I am? Can I be open about my interests, my family, and my culture? Will I stand out negatively? Am I worthy of being here?
What we can do to help:
- Learn student names early and use them in interactions with students.
- Greet students at the door and notice them individually.
- Avoid nicknames unless students give us permission to use them.
- Resist assigning general labels such as quiet, disengaged, and smart. Students are more than any one descriptor and giving labels can get in the way of our seeing the whole student.
- Look for students’ strengths and call them out, including gifts and talents that are not academic such as kindness, thoughtfulness, and a sense of humor.
- Invite students to share their stories and traditions.
- Normalize mistakes as part of learning, not measures of who the student is.
Belonging
Questions about belonging likely will include: Will I be accepted as part of the class? Will I feel included? Will I feel emotionally safe? Will I have or can I make friends? Will I be teased or ostracized if I make a mistake?
What we can do to help:
- Get to know students beyond their role as students.
- Inquire about interests, hobbies, and outside-of-school experiences and stories. Interest communicates connection.
- Develop shared norms and expectations for behavior that are respectful and build community.
- Invite student input on procedures and activities.
- Acknowledge students’ ideas and suggestions, even if not all of them can be implemented.
- Teach social skills such as courtesy, listening, and handling disagreement.
- Ensure that decorations, materials, and content represent diverse cultures and experiences.
- Respond quickly to counter teasing, harassment, and exclusion.
Competence
Questions and fears related to competency might be: How challenging will the work be? Do I have the skills necessary to do the work at this level? Will I be able to keep up? Will my teacher believe in my potential? Will I be able to get help if I need it?
What we can do to help:
- Reassure students they will be successful and that we are committed to making it so.
- Avoid comparing students to each other or past classes.
- Notice and celebrate effort and progress, as well as results.
- Reinforce good strategies, willingness to adjust, and effective use of resources.
- Begin with low stakes, accessible tasks to build confidence.
- Use scaffolding such as step-by-step processes, guides, examples, and illustrations to build student skills.
- Provide students with timely, objective, specific, and actionable feedback to help them see where they are making progress, where they may be struggling, and what steps they can take to improve.
The demands and distractions of the first weeks of a new school year can be daunting. However, this is a crucial time to help students to feel that they fit in, are accepted, and can be successful. By taking time to address their questions and concerns, we can set the stage for strong, positive relationships with our students and a year of learning success.