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Effective Alternatives to “Shush,” “Stop It,” and “Be Quiet”

Behavior, Communication

Effective Alternatives to “Shush,” “Stop It,” and “Be Quiet”

Managing student behavior is a constant process that often parallels the lesson we are teaching and the learning we are trying to build. Educators know full well just how often students say and do things that we and other students find distracting or that interrupt the flow of the classroom.

We can attempt to shut down disruptive student behavior with quick admonishments and directives, but this approach is more likely to prolong such behavior than prevent or extinguish it. In fact, a recent study of teacher behaviors in response to student interruptions or inappropriate behavior found that trying to shut down student behavior with phrases such as “Shush,” “Stop it,” and “Be quiet” were effective for only about five minutes before the same or similar behavior reappeared. Meanwhile, students learn little about self-regulation and avoiding similar behavior in the future.

Employing proactive student-centered approaches tend to be significantly more effective. The same study found that when expectations and redirection were connected to explanation, distracting and disruptive behavior was eliminated for 20 or more minutes.  Here are six examples of approaches we can use to enlist students in controlling and shifting their behavior to maintain classroom processes and build self-regulation.

First, we can frame expectations in what students can and should do rather than telling them what not to do. We might say, “Please listen attentively while others are speaking,” instead of, “Don’t talk when I or others are speaking.” Or we might say, “Please stay in your seat unless you need to get something” rather than, “No wandering around the classroom.”

Second, we can review expectations before transitions and remind students why the expectations are important or necessary. We could say, “We will be moving to the library in a few minutes. Let’s remember to walk quietly and calmly so we do not disturb other classes.” If we wait until students are not walking quietly and calmly in the hallway, we may find thar our redirection is even more disruptive to other classes and less effective with our students.

Third, we can connect redirection to purpose. Instead of "Stop talking and start working," we might say, "I notice that you are chatting during independent work time. I want you to get the most out of this time. That means focusing on your work." Or we could say, “I see that you are struggling with this problem. Struggling means you are learning. When we don’t give up, we get better. Let’s think of another approach you might use.”

Fourth, we can choose invitational language. Instead of, “Pay attention and get to work,” we could say, “You seem like you are a little distracted. What do you think might help you to focus and do your best work?” Or “I know that it is tough when you must wait for others to finish. What might be a good way for you to pass the time?” rather than, “Please sit quietly and wait for others to finish.”

Fifth, we might remind students of agreed upon norms and rationale. Our language could be, “Let’s pause for a second and think about the norms we created. How can they help us to work together better?” instead of, “Stop arguing.” Or “Let’s remember the norms we created. They can help us to respect each other and our work,” rather than, “Stop bothering each other.”

Sixth, we can redirect energy to more productive ends. Our guidance might be, “I see that this activity is stimulating lots of excitement, but let’s focus on organizing our materials so everyone is ready to participate,” instead of, “Stop talking and get ready for the next activity.” Or “Let’s stand up and stretch for a minute and then finish this activity strong,” rather than, “It’s getting too loud. Please quiet down.”

The reality of working with young learners is that they will not always pay attention, be ready to focus, or be able to regulate their behavior. We can choose to interrupt distracting and unacceptable behavior for the moment, or we can invest a few additional seconds and help students to manage their behavior and build autonomy.

Reference: Karasova, J. and Nehyba, J. (March 29, 2025). Novice teacher’s classroom behavior management: Situations, responses and impact on student behavior. British Educational Research Journal. Retrieved at: https://bera-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/berj.4166

Five Common Feedback Faults and Fixes

Communication, Student Learning

Five Common Feedback Faults and Fixes

We know that feedback is a crucial element in learning, especially when learning is challenging, multi-staged, and requires practice and application. Effective feedback reinforces progress, clarifies crucial learning components, lights the path forward, and propels persistence.

However, feedback that fuels learning requires a careful combination of art and skill. It must be provided in close enough proximity to learning efforts for learners to recall their thinking and actions during learning attempts. Feedback needs to be specific enough for students to understand its importance and potential impact. Further, feedback that reinforces learning needs to be objective, not colored by judgement or assumptions. Finally, the feedback we provide must give the learner information they need to take the next steps in learning.

While these elements of feedback may seem clear—even obvious—feedback often falls short in its ability to motivate and support learning when educators fail to heed several factors.  Let’s explore five of these common mistakes and how to fix them.

Mistake #1: Overloading the amount of feedback. We might think that students need to be informed of everything in the work they did worthy of note or in need of improvement. However, learners are limited in the amount of working memory they can manage at any time. Providing students with too much feedback can lead to students ignoring all or the most important feedback we provide.

Fix: Focus on the elements of student work that, if adjusted, would make the greatest difference. Even though we can provide extensive feedback, overloading will not improve learning. If we are concerned that a parent or others might criticize us for not catching every error, we might indicate with our feedback that it is targeted and not all-inclusive.

Mistake #2: Neglecting to connect feedback to learning goals. The presence of learning goals helps us and our students to focus, measure progress, and understand what still needs to be learned. Obviously, the most powerful learning goals include the participation of students in their development and can play a significant role in stimulating and tracking learning progress. Helping students to see progress and understand what lies ahead are important elements of feedback with impact.

Fix: Keep learning goals visible and active in feedback conversations. If established learning goals seem too far off, we may need to break down next steps to help students see how progress can be achieved, even if there is significant distance yet to be traveled.

Mistake #3: Feedback is overweighted with negative information. When students hear what feels like mostly bad news, they can become discouraged and give up rather than use the information to adjust and improve. Feedback that has a productive impact is carefully weighted to provide an accurate picture, while instilling hope for success.

Fix: We can choose our words and focus with the student’s perspective and perception in mind. We gain little by having students feel “buried.” Students also need to hear where they are making progress and what they are doing well. While we may need to share information that suggests the need for improvement, we can do so while sharing our confidence that the student will be successful and that we are committed to helping them to find their way forward.

Mistake #4: Feedback conversations do not include student response opportunities. Telling students where they are showing progress and sharing areas in need of improvement are only parts of effective feedback interactions. Unless students contribute to the conversation, they are unlikely to feel ownership for the feedback they receive. Further, we are not likely to know what students understand, how they react to what they hear, and whether they are committed to using the feedback we provide.

Fix: Give students ample opportunities to share their understanding, areas of confusion, insights about their learning, and to commit to applying the feedback they receive. Depending on the nature of situation we might even invite students to share their perspectives and ideas before we share feedback. In any case, once we have provided feedback, we need to give students opportunities to reflect and clarify what they have heard and discuss what they will do with it.

Mistake #5: Failing to follow up after providing feedback. We might think that once we have provided students with feedback on their learning attempts that we can move on to other things. However, students may find that what they try following our feedback isn’t working, they fail to recall what they heard, or they encounter a challenge that was not discussed in the feedback conversation. Failing to check in and reinforce the feedback we share risks compromising the impact of our efforts and could result in students giving up in frustration. 

Fix: Make a mental or physical note to follow up and reinforce feedback as students attempt to implement what they have learned. Once students have tried to apply the feedback they received, we might briefly touch base to see if they have any questions, inquire if they are making progress, and observe the results of new learning attempts. Our check-in not only helps to determine the impact of our feedback, but it also sends a message to students that we are interested and ready to continue to support their learning.  

Feedback is a powerful tool to support learning. However, it requires more than telling students where they have fallen short and what they need to do to improve. The best feedback is a conversation that builds understanding, instills hope, and stimulates further learning.

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Communication, Student Learning

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