December 04, 2025

A Pause: The Swiss Army Knife of Communication

We have many tools for communicating at our disposal. We can make powerful statements, present compelling arguments, and ask compelling questions. We can shout, whisper, speak quickly, or slow our speaking pace. Yet, arguably, the most powerful and flexible communication tool we possess isn’t found in the sounds we make. It resides in the silence we create.

The space when we are not speaking can communicate a wealth of meaning. When we choose to pause our words and remain silent, we can say more than we might when using dozens of words. Arguably, there is no other communication tool with as many potential uses and that packs as much power as the pause.

Of course, the meaning and impact of creating a pause may depend on elements such as timing, context, and non-verbal supports. However, we should not underestimate the power of a pause to convey an important message, provide space for reflection, or offer an opportunity for deeper connection. Consider these ten roles a pause can play and the impact each application can have:

Offering evidence of active listening. A pause following something said can communicate active listening and a commitment to hear, not just speak.
Showing patience and respect. A pause can be a signal for someone to speak during conversation, whether one-on-one or in a group. It can be a sign that we are ready to listen.
Express doubt. Saying nothing can say a lot about whether we believe what we are hearing. If fact, when people are not being honest, a pause can lead them to say more than they intend to fill the silence and strengthen their story.
Inviting agreement or disagreement. Pausing after making an argument or stating a position can be an invitation for a response. A pause can create space for reaction, minimize interruptions, and support a respectful exchange on an emotional topic.
Frame a response. Rather than making a knee jerk reaction, a pause can create the space we need to respond thoughtfully. A pause can also give us time to gain control of our emotions and choose to avoid “taking the bait.”
Offering space for reflection. A pause can be a time to process what has been said. A pause can allow us to take in something important or emotional, consider its implications, and appreciate its importance.
Create tension or drama. When telling a story or making a presentation, pausing before revealing an important piece of information can create anticipation, build tension, and maximize the attention the audience will give to what is said next.
Add emphasis. A pause following an important statement can emphasize its importance, give the audience time to consider the implications of what has been said, and increase its memorability.
Offer turn taking. Pauses in meeting conversations can create space for people who are waiting to speak. Fast-paced conversations favor those who think and speak quickly and with confidence. Creating a pause in the flow can make room for those who may need time to think or who are reluctant to speak.
Signaling a change of subject. A pause at the end of a discussion can be an invitation for any final thoughts or comments on a topic and create a break before moving to a new topic or issue.

As we work with students, colleagues, family members, and friends we should utilize the power of well-placed, strategically utilized pauses. We can become preoccupied with what we have to say, but we should not neglect the understated, but awesome potential of a thoughtful pause.