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Try the 5-4-3-2-1 Approach for the Best Summer Ever

The transition from the end of the school year to the beginning of summer can be a good time to pause and take stock of our emotional and mental state. While the past year may have been exhausting, summer can be a time of renewal. We may still have commitments and responsibilities to which we still need to attend, but the shift in routines can offer opportunities to rebuild our energy, replenish our reserves, and ready us for the fall.

However, without some thought and a plan, the summer can slip away without our having taken full advantage of what this time of the year can offer. Now is a good time to think about what will make this summer one that leads to renewal, refocusing, and restoration. One way to approach this opportunity is to think “5-4-3-2-1" to prioritize our planning and give us a focal point. Here is an example we can use to get started.

Make a list of the five things for which you are most grateful. Gratitude is a powerful antidote to many draining and harmful emotions. Even in challenging times, we have much for which we can be grateful. Gratitude focuses our attention and emotions on others and what they mean to us rather than being self-centered. We can review this list periodically during the summer to remind us of what is positive and important in our lives. We may even add items as we become aware of additional people and circumstances for which we can be grateful.

Identify four people with whom you want to connect or reconnect. Summer is a great time to widen our network of friends and expand our relationships. Relationships can also be great sources of support as we navigate uncertain and unpredictable times. We can give priority to the people we find interesting, optimistic, creative, or just fun to be around. Reaching out to an old friend or colleague can restore a connection that has been important to us. Developing new or existing relationships can give access to new ideas, perspectives, and insights.

Decide three things you would like to learn. Learning can be a great energy refresher, especially when what we are learning is our choice and serves purposes important to us. The learning can be personal or professional, or it could be a combination of both. We might choose to learn a skill that leads to a new hobby. We might pursue an area of long-standing interest. We might explore some new technology or develop a new instructional strategy or approach. The key is to stay fresh and enjoy the experience of learning.

Eliminate two sources of stress. Some stressors are beyond our control, and we need to focus on managing how they will impact us. Others are within our control to push aside or remove. As examples, social media accounts that have us “doom scrolling” and news sources that are overly political and negative might be left behind. We can also consider stressors such as unrealistic expectations we hold for ourselves and our inner critic that constantly engages us in negative self-talk. Stressors drain energy and challenge our outlook. Removing even a few negative stressors can make a big difference in our attitude and well-being.

Commit to forming one new habit. By choosing just one, we will be better able to focus on, track, and build success for that habit. For example, we might decide to form an exercise habit. Summer can be a great time to get into a routine that will carry through into the next school year. We might think about routines that can make our lives easier and more manageable, such as tackling the most difficult challenges first or starting each day by doing something that builds energy and gives us satisfaction. Or we might choose something as simple, but important, as having more conversations and dialogue with people we respect and from whom we can learn. The possibilities are endless.

This approach may seem simple—and it is. However, by being intentional and planful with the time we have away from the school year routine, we can restore our energy, rebuild our spirit, and create resources on which we can draw as we approach a new year.

May 18, 2023

Things We Say to Students That Can Have Unintended Consequences

These are weeks of the year when emotions can become intense, and behaviors can challenge our patience. The coming end of the year can raise anxieties about exams, final grades, and other opportunities and consequences in students’ lives. We, too, can experience uncertainties, anxiety, and worry.

How we choose to respond to our emotions and the emotions of students will play a consequential role in how they’ll feel about, behave, and process what happens in the final days and weeks. We can be a stabilizing force or a stimulus for further anxiety and emotional outbursts. Fortunately, this can also be a time for modeling and teaching students how they can gain and maintain control in the face of challenges and disorientation. Here are five statements that we’d be wise to avoid and strategies we can employ to continue to teach and support students as the end of the year approaches.

Don’t worry, you’ll do/be fine. Predicting the future isn’t useful in most circumstances. Students won’t always do or be fine, and they may have solid reasons for being worried. Students are responding to their interpretation of what’s happening. They may feel uncertain, threatened, or worried for reasons that are important to them and unknown to us. A better approach is to help students to understand and develop strategies to deal with their anxiety and worries. As examples, we might ask students to think about what’s worked for them in the past. Or we might ask them what advice they’d give to a friend who was worried about a similar situation.

You need to cheer up/calm down. It usually isn’t helpful to tell students how they should feel. Their emotions are real to them. The problem isn’t their feelings, but what they need to do with them. Our role is to help students learn strategies for dealing with their feelings. As examples, we might teach students self-soothing strategies, such as taking a walk, listening to music, or drawing or writing to express their feelings. Or we might encourage students to engage in mindfulness activities that help them become better aware of, reflect on, and manage how they’re feeling.

Don’t let me see/find/catch you doing that again. While our intent might be to have students not engage in unacceptable behavior, this statement says something different. The message is that students shouldn’t be caught. We don’t want students to focus on not being caught. We want them not to engage in the behavior. A better approach is to help students to understand why the behavior is unacceptable and develop alternative behaviors that help them to be successful through other approaches. For example, rather than telling students not to be caught copying other’s work, we can counsel students on the importance of asking questions, seeking clarification, or otherwise securing assistance that helps them to learn and be successful on their own.

You’re smart/talented/gifted. Praise can be a motivator, but it can also get in the way of learning and success. When we tell students they’re smart, talented, and gifted, students might assume they shouldn’t have to struggle, make mistakes, or seek help. When they find themselves in situations that challenge them, they can worry or assume they’re not as exceptional as our praise indicates. Consequently, they may choose to give up or find other ways to continue to appear intelligent. Our praise can be more helpful and supportive if we focus on the effort and strategies students employ in their learning and work. Effort and strategies are within students’ control while intelligence isn’t.

You’re making me mad/angry/furious. This statement may be intended as a warning to students, but the fact is people don’t “make” others angry or upset. Anger is a reaction that comes from within us. We have the power to determine what we think, how we respond, and how we’ll behave. When we say that someone’s causing our emotions, we deny responsibility for our feelings and behavior. We also risk sending the message to students that they don’t have to take responsibility for their behavior. Rather than blaming students for our emotions, we might say that we disapprove of the behavior, or state that behavior is unacceptable and offer alternative actions they can take that would be acceptable. For example, we might offer to meet with a student privately to discuss the situation.

We can’t avoid many of the emotions that accompany the end of the year. However, we can use this time to teach, coach, and counsel students how to manage what they’re feeling and develop strategies to respond to the challenges they face. Of course, we too can employ these strategies to help us to stay calm, focused, and successful as we negotiate our way to the end of the year, too.

May 04, 2023

Learning Is Today’s Workplace Super Skill

There's much about which we can be confused and uncertain in today’s world. Yet, one thing is clear: Our future depends on a citizenry that possesses the capacity to function successfully in a complex, technological, rapidly changing world. An informed, skilled, and learning-capable citizenry and work force are becoming more important each day. The introduction of and rapid growth in artificial intelligence is just one of many shifts driving rapid and disruptive changes in the workplace. Today’s workplace demands and rewards workers who continue to learn and adjust in response to changing conditions, expectations, and functions.

We need a citizenry with strong learning skills and who value learning as key to their success. Economists and workplace experts point to this challenge with growing urgency and alarm. Consider a sampling of recent voices:

James Bessen, an economist and the executive director of the Technology and Policy Research Initiative at Boston University School of Law notes the importance of workers knowing how to learn rather than any specific skill, as technology related skills constantly change.

Heather McGowan, author of the Fourth Industrial Revolution, advises that schools must focus less on transferring knowledge and more on the ability of independent learning.

The World Economic Forum recently noted that in the 1980’s learned skills had a life cycle of three decades. Today, learned skills have a shelf life of five years.

Kelly Palmer and David Blake, authors of The Expertise Economy, make the argument that credentials no longer hold much importance. Employers seek skills, expertise, and the ability to learn.

Obviously, meeting this challenge is complex and will require significant shifts and realignment in our education system. However, there are actions we can take to increase the focus on learning and development of our students’ learning skills. Here are five steps we can take immediately:

Help students to set learning goals and identify steps and activities to help them reach those goals. Obviously, the goals need to be aligned with identified standards and competencies. But just as practical, the goals need to reflect student commitment more than the assigned goal itself.

Monitor the level of challenge presented for students to ensure success is possible with appropriate focus and effort. It shouldn’t be so easy that it prohibits new learning. Known as the Zone of Proximal Development, the best learning outcomes tend to be generated within this range.

Coach students to reflect as they struggle, make progress, encounter setbacks, and grow. The practice of reflection is among the most powerful learning strategies available. As students become increasingly skilled at reflection, they become increasingly independent learners.

Focus feedback and recognition on the effectiveness of learning strategies and aligned learning effort. Help students understand how their effective strategies and smart effort position them to learn increasingly difficult concepts and skills. Meanwhile, they’ll build confidence in their learning, as well as build tolerance for unsuccessful, initial learning attempts.

Whenever possible, frame new learning in the context of the value and purpose it represents. Purpose drives powerful learning. The more we can connect learning to the value it provides, the more students will come to appreciate learning, and the more likely they’ll choose to continue to learn, even when we aren’t present.

While we work with students to develop the skills necessary to become independent learners, we need to keep in mind that acquiring the skills to learn is only half of the formula for success. Unless students also have the desire to learn, possess the curiosity to learn, and understand the value of learning, the impact of their skills experiences limits. We need to focus our attention, support, and encouragement on the development of both elements in this success equation.

April 14, 2023

The Growing Peril of Digital Self-Harm

We’ve been concerned about students who engage in physical self-harm for some time. The behavior isn’t new, but it’s expanding in a particularly concerning direction. Over the past few years, researchers have documented an increasing number of cases in which students are engaging in a new form of self-harm: digital self-harm.

As the name implies, students use technology to harm themselves. These young people often establish “ghost” accounts and use them to post mean and hurtful comments about themselves. Like physical self-harm, students report making the posts to cope with pain, gain attention, and blunt the pain of comments they anticipate coming from other adolescents. The messages often serve as invitations for other students to respond with additional negative and disparaging comments.

Several studies show that the number of adolescents engaging in these self-harming behaviors is growing in the aftermath of the pandemic. Estimates are that as many as 10 percent of adolescents have posted something negative or mean about themselves online. Meanwhile, there are statistically significant correlations between students who engage in digital self-harm and other adolescent challenges, including sexual orientation, depression, eating disorders, substance abuse, and in-person and cyber-bullying.

There also appears to be a high correlation between young people who engage in digital self-harm and suicidal thoughts and attempts. Recent research published in the journal Child and Adolescent Mental Health documented that young people who engage in digital self-harm are up to 15 times more likely to attempt suicide than the general adolescent population. For LGBTQ young people, the correlation and associated incidents are even higher.

Of course, physical self-harming behaviors can have serious health consequences in addition to the emotional and psychological pain students experience. While digital self-harming presents less physical evidence, it shouldn’t be treated any less seriously. Regardless of the form of self-harming, the behavior is typically reflective of intense pain and feelings of not being able to cope and can lead to even more destructive behaviors.

The complexity of this behavior also means we must proceed cautiously when dealing with what appears to be cyber-bullying. In some cases, what may appear to be bullying originating from other students may come from the student who appears to be a victim. Understanding the full nature of the situation is important before deciding how to proceed.

Identifying students who may be engaging in digital self-harming is more challenging than identifying those who engage in physical self-harming behaviors alone. There may be little physical evidence, and presence of the behavior may be discovered only in connection with other behaviors and conflicts.

Nevertheless, we can monitor warning signs and symptoms. Of course, the causes behind digital self-harm significantly overlap with physical self-harming behaviors. Among the signs to monitor are:

Self-harming history

Significant depression

Low self-esteem

Struggles with sexual identity

High levels of stress

Significant anxiety

Extreme attention-seeking

Substance abuse

Eating disorders

Traumatic experiences

Research to fully understand the causes and best approaches for dealing with digital self-harm is ongoing. In the meantime, we need to be aware of its existence and be ready to help, support, and refer young people who choose to deal with their pain and distress in this manner.

April 06, 2023

Want to Improve Your Outlook and Sense of Well-Being? Diversify

This is a time of year when it’s easy to feel as though we’re in a rut. We can feel stale and uninteresting. Our energy level may be ebbing, and we need a lift to reset our attitude and outlook. Life often has a way, especially during the winter months, of becoming routine and repetitive. While routines and repetition can bring a level of comfort and predictability, they can leave us feeling flat and unmotivated. Fortunately, the shift in outlook we need may be easier to achieve than we think. A study published in a recent issue of the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science suggests a practical solution to counter boredom and unhappiness and a way to open the door to new energy and greater fulfillment. In the same way the strategy of diversifying our financial resources across different types of investments can protect a healthy financial condition, diversifying our social engagements and relationships can lead to healthier, more vibrant encounters and a more optimistic outlook on life. While stable, long-term relationships are important to our health and well-being, interactions with others beyond our immediate circle can add variety and stimulation and connect us with others who have a wide range of experiences, outlooks, and perspectives. As a result, our thinking is challenged, we’re exposed to new ideas, and we gain new appreciation for our experiences, insights, and ideas. The answer is as simple as reaching out to former colleagues and childhood friends, contacting a distant relative, and engaging in conversation with people outside the education world. The benefits will be surprising and more than worth the effort. Of course, a similar diversification strategy can be impactful in other areas of life, too. For example, we might diversify our learning and entertainment activities. We can change up what we read or listen to. We may shift from exclusively reading print materials to exploring podcasts. We might shift from fiction to biographies, try science fiction or history. We might explore some new magazines, try some new television networks, or a new movie genre. Live concerts and theatre also are good options. Similarly, we might consider varying the activities in which we engage. If we normally walk for exercise, bicycling can be an option. Or maybe we just choose a new route to explore. We might explore hiking, biking, swimming, or cross-country skiing. Now might be a good time to rediscover jigsaw or crossword puzzles. The variety can increase our stimulation while challenging new muscles and areas of our brain. Another area worth exploring is the foods we eat. We can change up our “go to” menus. We might try new some new foods or return to some that we've not experienced in a while. We can explore foods from different cultures. Or we might expand our cooking and baking repertoire with new recipes. Of course, we also can try a new restaurant or two to expand our eating experience. Still another area to explore for potential diversification is our daily and weekly routines. Now might be a good time to change the time of day we set aside for exercise. We might try completing our lesson planning and related activities before leaving for the day, or at least spending less time at home in the evening doing school related work. Or we might commit to adding to or subtracting other activities from our routines. The options and opportunities for introducing greater diversification to our lives are nearly limitless. However, they only offer benefits if we're willing to step out of our routines, rituals, and ruts to give them a try.

February 22, 2023

Feeling Stuck? Tap Five “R’s” to Regain Momentum

These are times when there’s much in our world that causes stress, frustration, and confusion. The past two years have been disrupted. Hopes that everything will return to what we used to think of as normal haven’t been realized. Strategies on which we formerly relied may no longer work. Students often respond in ways that are different than prior to the pandemic. We, too, are different than we were two years ago. Meanwhile, we feel pressure to perform, but may not have the energy, enthusiasm, and commitment we used to possess. All these factors can leave us feeling stuck. When we’re stuck in a cycle of frustration, confusion, and resentment, our natural reaction can be to continue to press, hoping things will get better. Yet, doing so can make things worse and even more difficult to change later. Doing more of what’s not working rarely is a good solution. Rather than continuing to push and persist, it may be time to take a new tact. We can start by accepting that no one is likely to fix the situation but us. While this is a statement of reality, it’s also a statement of empowerment. We may not be able to change the elements and factors that drive our situation, but we always have the power to change how we think, interpret, and respond to what’s happening around us. For things to get better, we may need to disrupt the cycle of emotion and action that’s holding us back and making us feel stuck. Here's a five-step process to step back from our frustrations, re-evaluate our situation, re-position ourselves, and re-engage in our lives and work with new perspectives, strategies, and commitment. First, we can relax. We don’t do our best thinking or make our best decisions when we’re stressed and pressed. We only make ourselves more tired, angry, anxious, or frustrated. We risk experiencing a cycle of unproductive thinking and unhelpful behaviors. Continuing to do what hasn’t been working and expecting a different outcome, in the words of Albert Einstein, is insanity. It’s time to slow down and take a break from doing and reacting. We start by setting time aside. Reserve a weekend day, or schedule a getaway weekend to pause, reflect, and explore what we’re experiencing. Second, we need to reflect. We begin this process by examining primary drivers of our stress, anxiety, or confusion. We can explore how we might look at the situation from another perspective. What assumptions are we making that may be getting in our way? What patterns can we see that may provide hints for how we can disrupt and shift our thinking and behavior? How might our thinking and what we’re doing contribute to what we now experience? The key is to focus on ourselves and what we can do rather than becoming preoccupied by factors and forces we can’t change. Third, we use our insights to refocus. We capture “nuggets” of clarity and opportunity from our reflection to identify what’s important to shift in our thinking and modify our behavior. Next, we consider what’s doable and what’ll make the greatest difference in how we feel and experience our life and work. The key isn’t to add on or cram more into life and work. The answer isn’t working harder. The solution is letting go of what isn’t adding value and satisfaction and replacing those things with what offers meaning and purpose. Our focus should be on what can lead to clear progress and promises meaningful accomplishments. If this step leaves us struggling, we consider enlisting a friend or colleague to help us sort our reflection and look for clues and insights we can glean to nourish our refocusing. Fourth, we recommit to our work and purpose, capturing the energy provided by the hope of changing our approach, making progress, and accomplishing what’s important to us. It’s time to let go of what’s been holding us back and embrace our new vision of what’s possible with new insights and a new approach. We step up to embrace the power we’ve claimed and clarity of purpose we’ve created. Fifth and finally, we reengage in our work. This step asks us to convert our insights and intentions to action, challenging ourselves to commit to what we can do today that’ll move us forward and closer to the vision we’ve created. Importantly, we also need to pay attention to what we’ll stop doing that’s been getting in the way. What choices we can make that’ll break the cycle that’s been holding us back? What can we do to be sure that every day we do something to make things better? How can we leverage the next two weeks to see clear progress? If we struggle, we might ask, who should we enlist to help us stay committed and provide coaching and encouragement when we need it? The truth is that we can’t always change our circumstances. Yet, we always can shift how we think and how we respond. Now may be a good time to relax, reflect, refocus, recommit, and reengage to become unstuck and find the success and satisfaction we seek.

February 10, 2023

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Surprising Benefits of Giving Back to the Profession

This may seem like a surprising time to think about giving back to our profession. These are challenging times. We feel challenged just to do the work and meet the responsibilities we already have. Yet, there are many important reasons to make the choice to give back, especially now. Of course, education as a profession urgently needs advocates who understand its challenges, pressures, and problems and can speak to today’s reality, propose solutions, and share a positive vision. We need voices to advocate for young people to choose a career in education and be empowered to help make needed changes. We need voices of encouragement and support for each other. We can be that voice. Giving back to the profession also means passing on what we’ve learned to aspiring and new-to-the profession educators. We can encourage others and offer perspective and advice to help them hone their practice and build their repertoire of skills and strategies. Our willingness to share our experiences can also provide insights and prevent others from making the mistakes and missteps from which we've had to learn. Equally important, giving back offers significant benefits for us. Giving back reminds us why we chose this profession and reignites our passion and enthusiasm. Giving back increases our sense of purpose and generates feelings of meaning and significance. Meanwhile, we gain perspective as we reflect and share our experiences. Giving back reinforces the knowledge, skills, and wisdom we possess. Mentoring and coaching consolidates and brings to consciousness what we know, including what we may have thought we'd forgotten. So, what does it mean to give back, and what are some ways we make a difference? Here are eight options to consider and places to start: • Volunteer to work with student teachers and teacher interns. Young people who are considering and preparing to enter the profession need professional support and guidance. They also need good models and coaches to build their knowledge and skills. • Mentor/coach new teachers and colleagues. As experienced educators, we have much to share that can ease the entry of new colleagues. We can be the resource they need and a guide on which they can depend. • Teach a professional development or graduate level class or seminar. Even experienced educators need continuing education. Often the best information and ideas come from experienced colleagues. • Volunteer for professional committees and work groups beyond our department or school. Engaging with other professionals offers opportunities to share our experience, contribute our creativity, and build our knowledge while contributing in a larger context than the classroom. • Join a professional network. As we expand our network, we also can uncover opportunities to have an influence with and to learn from a wider group of educators. We also can gain access to increasing opportunities to advocate and influence the status and future of education • Write an article/present at a conference/do a webinar or podcast. We might share a technique we've developed, a routine that works well, or an approach that’s particularly effective. Or we might address important issues or advocate for changes that will make a difference. • Write a note about the contributions and difference making of a colleague. Noticing and sharing good things we see and recognizing excellence is a great way to give back. The note may be to the colleague’s supervisor, a newsletter, or just an informal note to the colleague. • Offer to cover a class or assignment. Covering for a colleague may seem small, but supporting each other is a great way to give back. It can make a far greater difference than we might think. Remember: Giving back is as much an attitude as it is a set of actions. Why we choose to do something can matter as much as what we do. An open heart, generous spirit, and readiness to help may be all that we can give right now. If so, it will be enough.

January 27, 2023

An Often Hidden Consequence of Childhood Trauma

We know the impact trauma can have on the health and spirit of young lives in its immediate aftermath. We also often see the aftereffects of trauma for months following serious incidents and tragic occurrences. Obviously, these experiences are difficult enough when they’re happening, but now research shows that the damage children suffer can create long-term changes to their DNA. Sadly, research shows that the impact of early-in-life trauma stays with young people as they grow and can make them vulnerable to even more trauma later in life. Researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison and others in a research collaborative recently completed a ten-year study of the effects of childhood stress on the genetic chemistry of victims. Researchers observed that young people who’ve suffered childhood trauma often have genetic markers on specific genes. The markers, known as epigenetic modifications, determine whether the genes will function properly. These genetic markers influence emotional regulation, including susceptibility to depression, vulnerability to drug dependency, and other mental health challenges. The study also revealed that victims of childhood trauma often don’t recall their experience accurately, possibly because they were too young, or they’ve blocked all or parts of their memory. Consequently, the experiences and their effects can be ignored or misread. Researchers hope that the research will lead to more accurate and stable diagnoses of later life aftereffects. With further development, the findings may also open the possibility for treatment. Educators have suspected for a very long time that serious trauma during childhood can have lasting implications for students. The challenge has been to understand the implications and provide help. Since this research defines and documents the problem in genetic terms, it positions it to receive additional attention. The findings might also hold promise for the development of treatment protocols. Research points to the importance of partnerships between the research and medical communities and the mental health and education communities to develop supports and services and advocate for solutions. It’s difficult to predict how quickly genetic-related treatment in response to past trauma will be available. However, this research reinforces the importance of public policies that prevent or minimize social conditions associated with childhood trauma. Fighting poverty, supporting families, and providing employment aren’t just worthy aims. Effective public policies can prevent the life tragedies trauma can cause and life compromising effects that result. These policies also make good long-term economic sense. This research and what we have long known about the effects of childhood trauma make a strong case for us to partner with other local, regional, and national organizations and agencies. It’s imperative to advocate for better public policies and funding for research to mitigate and potentially reverse the lifelong effects of these tragic experiences. We’ve no time to waste. Each day more children suffer trauma and preventable tragic events in their lives. For those young people who’ve already lived through their own trauma, we need to do our best to provide hope and help.

December 23, 2022

Does Cursive Writing Have a Place in Today’s Schools?

The debate about whether cursive writing should be required learning in school has grown over the past few decades. The dominance of electronic communications and keyboard-based writing has intensified this debate. Educators, policymakers, and parents are left to wonder about the role and value of students learning to write by hand, including the development of cursive writing skills. We have a responsibility to ask ourselves where and how it's most crucial for learners and educators to invest their time. There's a near endless list of activities in which students could engage. Yet, the time available for formal education is limited and must be prioritized to prepare students to meet the demands of a lifetime. Fortunately, numerous studies have focused on the value of handwriting, including manuscript and cursive. The most compelling findings reinforce the value of students learning to form letters, having an efficient means to convey thoughts, and developing fine motor skills and hand-eye coordination through handwriting. There's also evidence that learning to write offers benefits in development of reading skills. However, there's far less compelling research regarding whether students should learn both manuscript and cursive writing. Certainly, keyboarding removes the challenge of legibility and, depending on the technology, can support correct spelling, grammar, syntax, and other vexing aspects of handwriting. While keyboarding can be efficient, there remains value in students experiencing the process of writing by hand. Studies have shown that notetaking by hand improves memory over notetaking via a keyboard. Additionally, the act of forming and sequencing letters gives students a different relationship with writing than selecting the correct key to press. Still, there's no doubt that writing via keyboard will continue to play a prominent role in how we communicate. Meanwhile, instruction in cursive writing in schools has declined steadily over the past few decades. In fact, today only a minority of schools of education include instruction in how to teach cursive writing. Consequently, fewer teachers know how to teach or place a high priority on cursive writing and are spending less time teaching students to write using cursive. With limited time, increasing accountability for learning and competing priorities, how might we think about handwriting instruction and the role it should play in learning? Four considerations seem important: First, the research on the value of handwriting is clear. There's value in students learning to write by hand despite advances in technology. We’re not at a point where abandoning this aspect of the curriculum appears viable or wise. Second, since most text to which students are exposed is in the form of print, it makes sense that they at least learn to write using manuscript. The appearance of letters and words students are reading and forming are most consistent in manuscript, and confusion is likely to be minimized. Third, if the decision is made not to provide cursive writing instruction, students still can be taught to read cursive writing. While learning to write in cursive takes considerable time and practice, learning to read cursive can be done in a relatively short time. Learning to read cursive also preserves for students access to historical documents and personal communication that is written in cursive. Fourth, several surveys and research studies show that most older students and adults who've learned to write in cursive still choose to use a combination of manuscript and cursive when writing by hand. Additionally, signatures and other forms of official correspondence typically accept printed forms of handwriting, so students aren't likely to be seriously disadvantaged by the absence of full command of cursive writing. Even if cursive is not taught, consideration might be given to introducing students to the process of connecting letters in cursive form for purposes of signatures and other specific uses. Obviously, there also are political aspects to this decision. Learning cursive will be a strongly held value in some communities, and there may be demands that students learn to write using this approach. Certainly, local perspectives must be considered. Still, it appears clear that deciding not to teach students to write using cursive won't seriously impair their ability to communicate and succeed in their futures.

December 16, 2022

Don’t Confuse Gratitude With Toxic Positivity

In this pressure-packed, often confusing time, some people conflate gratitude with what we call toxic positivity. The two concepts and related behaviors could not be more different. Engaging in one makes us more optimistic, connected, and healthy, while the other can leave us feeling guilty, isolated, and depressed. One deals with reality, while the other ignores it. Unfortunately, the confusion leads us to ignore and even reject a potentially powerful force that not only improves our mental health but creates greater happiness. We may believe that ignoring reality helps us cope. Yet, dealing with reality leads to healthier outcomes. Let’s explore these two concepts and how they can influence ways in which we feel, live, cope, and grow. Let’s begin with gratitude. Gratitude has a long history in society. In fact, Cicero called gratitude the parent of all virtues. Studies have established that having and acting on feelings of gratitude leads to greater patience, decreased depression, increased wisdom, and higher levels of honesty, generosity, patience, and perseverance. It also helps to prevent burnout. Gratitude does not ignore reality. In fact, gratitude embraces life in all its forms. We can feel grateful in the face of tragedy and in response to triumph. Gratitude focuses our attention and emotions on others rather than keeping the focus on ourselves. Gratitude leads us to move past quick, superficial expressions of thanks to actually pausing and feeing emotion of the moment. A powerful relationship builder, gratitude has been called the “glue” that fortifies relationships. Researchers have labeled gratitude the find, remind, and bind behavior. An attitude of gratitude helps us to find people with whom we would like to form relationships. Gratitude reminds us of what is good in our current relationships, and gratitude binds us to friends and partners by making them feel appreciated. Gratitude encourages behaviors that lengthen and strengthen relationships. Of course, obvious benefits to having an optimistic outlook and positive attitude result. They carry us through difficult times and help us to see the positive side of situations and experiences. However, when positivity overshadows reality or discounts difficult, even tragic experiences, it becomes toxic to relationships and organizations. High levels of toxic positivity result in not understanding, recognizing, or appreciating the challenges and circumstances faced by others. As a result, toxic positivity generates feelings of guilt when people feel sad, depressed, or stressed by circumstances they face. Toxic positivity also creates an environment with ignored problems and unaddressed challenges. Consequently, situations deteriorate, preventing needed growth and change. Unfortunately, those who point out the reality of situations get blamed and shamed. To summarize:

Gratitude is grounded and authentic while toxic positivity ignores reality and engages in wishful thinking.
Gratitude shares authentic emotions and builds relationships while toxic positivity leads to feelings of guilt and shame.
Gratitude leads to improved emotional and mental health while toxic positivity ignores feelings, creates stress, and generates feelings of depression.
Gratitude is growth supporting while toxic positivity stunts and undermines growth at crucial life junctures.
Gratitude supports others’ positive feelings and behaviors while toxic positivity leads to feelings of resentment and isolation.

These are difficult, often trying times. We need to marshal all our resources to remain healthy, grounded, and productive. Being positive is important, but it must not be carried to the point of toxicity. Gratitude, on the other hand, enjoys few limits. The more we embrace it the better we feel, the better we make others feel, and the better our organization functions.

December 09, 2022

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